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ADHD-informed support
Planning, task initiation, motivation, and realistic routines.
Therapy for Teen Girls in California
Your bright girl is slipping and pulling away.
For the parent who can see she is capable, but cannot reach the part of her that is struggling. Warm, relaxed, collaborative therapy for girls ages 14–18, fully online across California.
You know she’s capable.You can also see she’s struggling.
Schoolwork is late even when she knew it cold. The binder is a disaster. When you ask what is wrong, she goes quiet or comes apart. Maybe high school hit and something changed. Maybe college is coming and she cannot tell you whether she wants it.
Somewhere in there she started keeping the hardest parts to herself, including how she feels about her body, the friendships and boys she cannot set a limit with, and the sense that she is falling behind.
Often what looks like not trying is an ADHD brain that has been masking so well nobody saw her struggling. Sometimes anxiety is also part of the picture, and sometimes both are. She is not giving you a hard time; she is having a hard time. You do not need a diagnosis to begin. We figure out what is actually going on, together.
Common experiences
What your daughter may be experiencing
Your daughter may be carrying more worry than she knows how to explain.
Planning, task initiation, motivation, and realistic routines can become difficult.
The pressure to perform can make it hard to know what she actually needs.
Changes in belonging can feel especially heavy when she is already stretched thin.
She may not yet have words for what is happening or how to ask for support.
Big reactions can be signs that her system is overloaded, not that she is giving you a hard time.
We make room for the parts of her experience she may be keeping to herself.
Therapy can help her notice her own wants and needs alongside everyone else’s.
She deserves a place where she does not have to perform or have the right answer.
Transitions can pull away the structure that used to help everything hold together.
A capable outside can hide how much effort ordinary days are taking.
We can slow down and build self-understanding with curiosity.
Ready to ask whether this could be a fit for your daughter?
What therapy looks like
A place where she does not have to perform
Therapy with me is warm, relaxed, and collaborative. Your teen doesn’t have to arrive knowing what to talk about or feeling excited about therapy. I focus first on building trust and creating a space where she can take off the pressure to perform, have the “right” answer, or keep everyone else happy.
Sessions may include talking through what’s happening at school, at home, or with friends; exploring patterns underneath her reactions; or using movement and body-based tools when talking alone doesn’t feel helpful. I balance validation with gentle honesty and practical support.
Therapy isn’t meant to feel like another class, lecture, or place where she is being evaluated. It’s a space where she can better understand herself, feel less alone in what she’s experiencing, and develop confidence in her ability to handle difficult emotions and situations.
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Approaches & tools
Support shaped around how she actually works
I tailor therapy to each teen’s personality, needs, and comfort level. My approach may include:
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Somatic and nervous-system-based tools
Recognizing and regulating stress through body-based tools.
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Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work
Understanding inner conflict and self-criticism with curiosity.
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CBT and ACT strategies
Working with anxiety, avoidance, perfectionism, and unhelpful thought patterns.
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Attachment-based therapy
Exploring family relationships, friendships, trust, and belonging.
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Mindfulness, movement, breathing, and grounding
Simple practices that can help when talking alone does not feel helpful.
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Self-compassion work
Reducing shame and strengthening self-trust.
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Communication, emotional regulation, and boundaries
Building practical skills that feel useful in her actual life.
Why Jessie Lamb for your teen
A counsellor who sees the girl who seems fine
I was a head school counselor before private practice. I spent years sitting across from bright girls who were holding it together in every classroom and coming apart at home, and watching how easy they are to miss. That’s the girl I built this practice around.
I’m also a parent raising neurodivergent kids. I bring a warm, grounded, direct approach, with experience supporting teen girls through anxiety, ADHD, transitions, and overwhelm.
What to expect
A first step that does not ask her to perform
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Starting with a consultation
A low-pressure conversation to understand what is happening and whether Jessie may be a fit.
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Building trust at her pace
Your teen does not need to arrive knowing what she wants to say.
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Practical support around her real life
Support shaped around school, friendships, emotions, identity, boundaries, and whatever is most relevant.
Parent involvement
Therapy works when your daughter trusts that it’s hers. What she shares with me stays between us, with the exceptions required by law, chiefly safety. I’ll always tell you if I’m concerned about her safety. Beyond that, I encourage her to share with you herself, and we build family support into her goals rather than around it. Typical rhythm: she sees me every other week; you and I check in about every other month, more often if something comes up.
Explore the patterns
Support for what brought you here
You can begin with the pattern you notice first and explore the other kinds of support available here.
Online therapy for teen girls · California
A first conversation for your daughter.
Use the booking link to request a free 15-minute consultation for your daughter. Prefer to review the details first? Contact Jessie about online therapy.